There is a difference between the feelings you experience when having a heated debate with another, and one you experience when being irritated by an exchange. In both cases one experiences a 'separation from source' to a particular degree. As humans living in duality (spirit and matter) we are by definition separated from source energy; the latter being unconditional love. On the path of discovering our divine magnificence, we will experience a range of emotions which correlate to the degree of separation we feel. For example, when we are holding a cooing baby, we feel elated , joyous and peaceful - this is perhaps the closest we come to experiencing source energy; in other words, experiencing less separation. When we ruminate over past unwanted experiences, we experience more separation from source because we are farther away from the feeling of unconditional love, the latter being pure source energy.